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sansaandtyrion:

reekrhymes:

ugh but these has not been enough discussion of the fact that Sansa burned the fuck out of Tyrion and he was just like “wow yes thank you for that you fierce fucking bitch you are going to grow up and fuck everybody’s shit up i probably deserve this somehow jesus christ what an impressive beast of a woman is hidden under that delicate front why are all of you idiots underestimating her seriously” he was like a proud parent

#THE BURN WASN’T ALL THAT MADE THE SCENE #IT WAS THE REACTION #SHE’S GAINED THE RESPECT OF A MAN WHO SHOULD BE HER ENEMY #IT’S NOT JUST THAT SHE SAID IT #BUT THAT HE RECEIVED IT #AND WAS IMPRESSED #NOT JILTED OR UPSET OR INSULTED OR DISGUSTED THAT SOME LITTLE GIRL DARED INSULT HIM #SANSA FOR EVERYTHING 

(via thegoodlannister)

milajaroniec:

Get stuck. Stay in one place your whole life. Always order vanilla even though the menu is four pages long. Become the type of person who sends back lattes. Save up your money for a plasma TV instead of a plane ticket. Talk a lot about things you know nothing about. Have an affair with someone you don’t even find attractive.

Refuse to forget your ex. Make it impossible for yourself to do anything without remembering that you used to do it with them. Hug your knees under the sheets and think about how safe you felt when they held you at night. Remind yourself daily of how empty you feel. Find new ways to make yourself sad.

Get drunk all the time. Consider no Saturday night, national holiday or extended happy hour complete without a vodka-induced breakdown. Graduate college but keep drinking like you’re still in it. Notice that cheap beer tastes watery and stale when you drink it alone but drink it anyway. Look at old Facebook photos wasted and wonder where everyone went.

Never drink. Never do anything that could potentially be “bad” for you. Treat your body like the temple it is and say no to carbs, yes to wheatgrass, go to bed at ten sharp and turn down cake on your birthday. Take fifteen different dietary supplements. Monitor carefully. Succumb to nothing. Miss out on everything.

Compare yourself constantly, to everyone. Allow the standards of image-obsessed, age-obsessed culture to make you feel decrepit at 25. Scroll through skinny girls on Tumblr feeling wistful and inadequate. Pull at the skin on your hipbones, stomach, and underarms in the mirror. Sigh a lot. Sigh all the time.

Don’t fall in love with anyone or anything. Put an impenetrable wall between yourself and other people. Add a fire-breathing dragon and eight yards of barbed wire. Be suspicious of everyone’s motives. Hold grudges long after you’ve forgotten what for.

Fall in love with everyone and everything. Run after the next best thing like it’s a bus you’re perpetually late for. Throw your heart into every other stranger’s hands and be genuinely surprised to be hurt. Refuse to learn. Refuse to ever learn.

valuska:

I was satisfied with haiku until I met you,

but now I want a Russian novel,
a 50-page description of you sleeping.

— D. Young

thegoodlannister:

sansaandtyrion:

So, I was watching episode 2x03 of GoT… And there came a scene where Tyrion had a small interaction with a whore he’s never seen before. Just to be clear, I’m talking about this scene:

I don’t know what fans thought about that scene, I skimmed the Tyrion Lannister tag and I found nothing about it. But I’ve seen enough interpretations on Tyrion’s relationship with whores in this fandom to know that there is some basic disagreement between different readers.  

So I want to say it clearly – I love Tyrion, I really love Tyrion and for me this scene proves how amazing he is.

Tyrion is a really complicated character and his relationship with whores is even more complicated. He is, in a way, obsessed with whores, he’s been like that for years. He says it’s about the sex, but I don’t really think that’s true. I think it’s about the love. Whores are the only people who give him love – it’s paid love, it’s limited love, but it’s the only form of love he can get. So he’s becoming addicted to it. He’s been told that he’s a deformed monster for his entire life, he’s been told that he is the ugliest thing on earth. And you know that when kids/teenagers hear something bad about them enough times, they start to internalize it, they start to believe it is true. So Tyrion truly feels like the ugliest most malformed person on the planet. He sees the hate/pity in everyone’s eyes and he hates himself as well. And that’s a serious burden to live with. Some people may call it “bitching about dwarf-pain”, but I’m telling you – living with that kind of self-loathing is a really a heavy burden. And I strongly believe that he, in a way, feels sorry for the whores he sleeps with. He considers himself the most disgusting being on the planet and when he pays a woman to sleep with him, part of him feels sorry for her, because she would have to sleep with someone as hideous as him. At the same time he feels he is completely entitled to that love, since he is paying the price for it, just like any other man in his world. So, he’s obsessed with receiving paid love. He hates himself for being deformed, he hates everyone for constantly reminding him how deformed he is, he feels sorry for the women that have to sleep with him, but he feels he deserves it as long as he pays for it.

And all these contradicting emotions are… complicated. I would never say “Tyrion doesn’t respect women!”, because he does. This episode proves that he does… So, back to that scene.

Tyrion is arresting Pycell and when the whole thing is over he looks at this scared woman, hiding in the corner. He is the only one who pays her any attention, the other men just walk out of the room, not looking at her once, as if she was an object. But Tyrion knows better than that. He looks at her. He sees how afraid she is, how vulnerable she feels. So he goes to her, puts a coin next to her and says “For your trouble.” He knows she witnessed something rather unpleasant, so he feels he owes her some small compensation. He’s sorry he made her feel so scared and he’s trying to be nice. (Some people may say he is buying her silence, I don’t really agree with that, but let’s say it’s true. Anyway, he gives her a coin.) Then he turns away, ready to walk out of the room. And he sees Pycell. He sees that horrible repulsive human and he realizes that this woman in the corner just had sex with him. She had to make her living by taking this unpleasant old man to her bed. And once again Tyrion feels sorry for her, he feels sorry for her on a deeper level. Because he’s been there, he’s asked women to take him into their beds, he’s seen it in their eyes how much they hate it, even when they pretend to enjoy it. And in this moment he knows that one coin is simply not enough. So he goes back and gives her a second coin. This time he doesn’t say a word, he just looks at her and his eyes are saying “I understand. Don’t worry.” And she looks at him and nods, she is not afraid anymore, her short nod means “Okay.”. And then he goes out.

So… how is Tyrion misogynistic again? He is the only man that pays any attention to the scared woman in the corner, probably one of the view men in the entire Westeros that will notice her at all. He goes to her, he tries to apologize in a way and he compensates her with money. And then he goes back and compensates her even more. How many men in Westeros would do that? How many rulers? I think Robert Baratheon wouldn’t notice her at all, Jaime Lannister and Theon Greyjoy would laugh at her and tell a joke, Ned Stark wouldn’t make any eye-contact with her because he would consider interacting with her unworthy for an honorable person, Joffrey would beat her, Ramsay Bolton would kill her. Yep, Tyrion Lannister for the most misogynistic guy in Westeros!

Guh, Annie. So I’ve never thought about the fact that Tyrion actually feels sorry for the women who have to sleep with him because he views himself as so essentially undesirable. Fuck. Like, of course he pays them for it, and it doesn’t have as much to do with him thinking of them as objects as it does with him thinking of them performing a really, really unpleasant task, like… idk, cleaning out a chamber pot. So unpleasant that it actually becomes a job and therefore, something to be paid for.

thegoodlannister:

ivanolix:

While rolling around ASOIAF fandom lately, I’ve come across a lot of Sansa commentary that makes her out to be rather simplistic. They take her POVs as perfectly reliable and straight-forward, which for many reasons they are NOT. That’s a meta in and of itself, but one point in particular irritates me when brought up in Sansa meta and that is the whole “Sansa didn’t want to marry Tyrion in ASOS because he was ugly.”

Now, I’ll not deny that Sansa can be and often is a shallow character (any more than the average person? I’d say no but again, that’s another meta for another time). However, in the tragic fuck-up that was Sansa and Tyrion’s wedding, Tyrion’s subjective ugliness only had a small part and was NOT the main reason she was terrified.

Here’s why I say that. Before Sansa is told about her wedding, she’s imagining getting married to Willas Tyrell and is as happy as she’s been since before Ned was arrested for treason. She’s never met Willas, only knowing that he’s a supposedly kind and gentle cripple who will provide her with a paradise full of puppies. Highgarden is what she wants, and Willas is just her ticket to getting there. Why? Because it’ll get her away from the Lannisters. She’s so desperate for safety at this point that she’ll gamble her future on a man she’s never met before.

At this point Cersei drops the bomb on her that she’s going, right then and now, to be forcibly married to Tyrion. There’s no proposal nor any denial of the fact that this is a fierce political move. The Lannisters want her claim to Winterfell and they want control over her. Cersei makes this perfectly clear. Sansa has had little interaction with Tyrion in the past, but all of it makes it clear that he IS loyal to his family. He IS a Lannister.

Next, Sansa gets a private moment with Tyrion himself. He makes it clear that he also does not like this political move that his family is making, but nevertheless he’s not actively fighting against it. Small comfort for Sansa, who’s being married off to a family who (as an entirety) despises her and is not opposed to her being abused. Whether or not Tyrion’s been kind at rare moments in the past is hardly relevant; after all, Cersei and Joffrey were at times kind to her too.

And then Tyrion offers that, if she doesn’t want to marry HIM, she could instead marry Lancel. This is the prime evidence against the “Sansa didn’t want to marry Tyrion in ASOS because he was ugly” hypothesis. Lancel, as stated in canon, resembles a young Jaime. Jaime is considered to be the most beautiful man in Westeros. Lancel is therefore beautiful and of a similar age to Sansa, like her biggest crush Loras Tyrell. IF Sansa had been thinking shallowly at this point, she would have leapt at the opportunity to marry Lancel instead of Tyrion.

But she doesn’t. This doesn’t mean she’s any more willing to marry Tyrion than before, but it’s significant that she doesn’t take the “escape” offered. Beauty is far from the only thing that matters to her. When making her choice, all she thinks of is that at least Tyrion was kind to her.

Because THAT’S what matters to Sansa at this moment. She fears the Lannisters, but if she has to marry one she’ll go for the man who MIGHT actually not want her hurt.

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I just… the idea that there are people who actually believe that Sansa’s main objection to her marriage to Tyrion is appearance, it’s… well, it’s just boggling to me, tbh.  Like, I ship them, everyone knows this, but really.  There’s no way this marriage could have worked out positively for either party under the circumstances - not due to any particular fault of Sansa OR Tyrion, but just because the circumstances are THAT TERRIBLE.

Like, okay, Sansa doesn’t want to marry Tyrion because, well, simply, she has no choice in the matter.  Actually, she’s had no choice in absolutely anything in her life for quite some time.  That sense of helplessness has got to be terrifying.  And yeah, as Merry said, it’s the Lannisters who have caused that sense of helplessness in Sansa - and Tyrion, as different from his siblings (note I’m not saying he’s better or worse, just different) as he might be, is still a Lannister.  A Lannister who now isn’t really doing anything to stop their marriage.  We, as readers, might recognize that Tyrion has other reasons for failing to do this, outside of wanting to control her as the rest of his family appears to, but what would lead Sansa to believe this?

Certainly not Tyrion’s actions at the wedding.  Which are ALSO understandable.  Tyrion has - let us say - a number of issues regarding the way people, especially women, relate to him.  Sansa’s coldness (again, understandable to us, but not to Tyrion, whose experience of the wedding is colored by his own belief in his essential undesirability) serves to play on these issues.  She doesn’t want me because I’m ugly, he thinks.  No one would.  It doesn’t matter how I act.  There’s nothing I could do to make her love me. Again, if we’re careful readers, we know this isn’t the truth - at least, not all of it - but Tyrion CAN’T.  It would require a self-awareness he doesn’t possess.

Sansa is cold, Tyrion becomes bitter.  Tyrion becomes bitter, he fails to offer any form of comfort to Sansa and instead retreats into a spiral of self-pity.  He fails to offer reassurance, Sansa becomes more untrusting (read: cold, at least to Tyrion).  It’s a cycle, and it spells death for their relationship.  Actually, it prevents them from having any sort of relationship at all because all this is already in place at the moment they say their vows.  Let us not forget: they don’t even KNOW each other, not really, and understandably, they’re both kind of focused on their own issues.